1. I HAVE A RIGHT ... to ask for what I want and a right to all the good times that I have longed for all these years and didn't get and the right to my own needs for personal space and time.
2. I HAVE A RIGHT ... to joy in this life, right here, right now - not just something temporary but something more substantive and sustaining.
3. I HAVE A RIGHT ... to say no to requests or demands I can't meet and to relax and have fun in a non-alcoholic, non-abusive, non-religious and in a non-destructive way and to feel FREE.
4. I HAVE A RIGHT ... to actively pursue people, places, and situations that will help me in achieving a good life for myself.
5. I HAVE A RIGHT ... to express and speak my truth, say no whenever I feel something is not safe or I am not ready or doesn`t feel right or it violates my values.
6. I HAVE A RIGHT ... to not participate in either the active or passive "crazy-making" behaviours of parents, of siblings, partner, religion and of all others and I have the right to feel scared and say "I'm afraid.".
7. I HAVE A RIGHT ... to take calculated risks, be creative and to experiment with new strategies.
8. I HAVE A RIGHT ... to say "I don't know.", change my mind, to change my tune, my strategy, and my funny equations.
9. I HAVE A RIGHT ... to "mess up", to make mistakes, to "blow it", to disappoint myself and to fall short of the mark and not have to be perfect.
10. I HAVE A RIGHT ... to leave the company of people who deliberately or inadvertently put me down, lay a guilt trip on me, manipulate or humiliate me, including my alcoholic parent, abusive parent, my non-alcoholic parent, my non-abusive parent, partner or any other member of my family or religion or anyone else and the absolute right to be in a.non-abusive environment.
11. I HAVE A RIGHT ... to put an end to conversations with people who make me feel put down and humiliated.
12. I HAVE A RIGHT ... to express all of my feelings, positive or negative and the right to make decisions based on my feelings. They belong to me.
13. I HAVE A RIGHT ... to trust my feelings, my beliefs, judgement, my hunches, my intuition.
14. I HAVE A RIGHT ... to develop myself as a whole person emotionally, spiritually, mentally, physically and psychologically in the ways I find appropriate.
15. I HAVE A RIGHT ... to express all my feelings in a non-destructive way and at a safe time and place and to have my needs and wants respected by others.
16. I HAVE A RIGHT ... to expect honesty from others and not to be responsible for others behaviour, actions, feelings, or problems.
17. I HAVE A RIGHT ... to as much time as I need to experiment with new information, old wisdom, universal truths and to initiate changes in my life as I see fit with the absolute right to change and grow.
18. I HAVE A RIGHT ... to be mentally healthy, to a sane way of existence, though it may or will deviate in part, or all, from my parents' and/or partners` or others prescribed philosophy of life and to be treated with dignity and respect and determine my own priorities and I have the right to be healthier than those around me.
19. I HAVE A RIGHT ... to own and express my sexuality and be playful and frivolous - to be heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual or transsexual and carve out my place in this world and be uniquely myself and the right to make friends and be comfortable around people.
20. I HAVE A RIGHT ... not to give excuses or reasons for my behaviour and to follow any of the above rights, to follow my own values and standards, to live my life the way I want to with respect for others, and not wait for permission to do so or until my alcoholic/abusive parent/partner/other(s), religion, gets real, gets well, gets happy, seeks help, or admits there is/was a problem.
21. I HAVE A RIGHT ...to be angry at someone I love, the right to be HERE, to be happy and to be fully ME.
WELCOME TO ELEVATED THERAPY